It’s a Relationship not a Contract

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Windows on Finance Part 10

Our walk with our Creator is a journey in relationship with Him. He is our loving heavenly Father and we are his children. However He is still God and we don’t have any financial leverage on Him any more than an ant has leverage over the sun. Today I want to keep it real and make it clear there’s no magic formula or Holy Grail to health, wealth and prosperity. The aim of this whole series is to impart eternal biblical principles regarding our finances and being blessed but we need to understand we can’t use the Bible like a legal contract with God whereby if we do “Financial A”, He must do “Financial B”.

A relationship is much more complex than a legal contract e.g. it may be that what we’re asking and begging God for might actually be very dangerous for us and whilst we may think “the heavens are as brass” and God is ignoring us, He’s actually very lovingly saving us from serious trouble.

Here are some other examples of when our relationship with God may have negative financial consequences even though we’re doing everything “right” in our finances.

In John 15:2 Jesus says “Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit.” So even if we are being fruitful for God and doing everything right, God in His wisdom may still prune us for bigger and better things, and pruning can hurt!

Again in Hebrews 12:5-8 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: “My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him, for whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons, for what son is there whom a father does not chasten? But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.

So just as an earthly father may discipline his son even though he loves him, likewise our heavenly Father proves His love for us by disciplining us (note it says “every” son is disciplined so we’re all going to receive it if we are His children)... and this discipline may well affect our finances.

God is a jealous lover, He wants to know that we really are in love with Him and are totally sold out for Him. He will sometimes test our love and dependence on Him by taking away some of our security and comforts to see what we will do. I heard it said that people are like sponges, you only know what’s on the inside when they get squeezed! God is not averse to giving us the odd squeeze every now and then. If He is our Source, a financial squeeze should send us running deeper into His arms and leaning more fully on Him. How many people do you know who have said they love God but as soon as adversity strikes they pack it all in and run for the hills. They have missed the opportunity for their finest hour because their eyes weren’t fully on Him and their hearts didn’t actually trust in Him.

And even if we are tithing and leaning on God as our Source, if we have other bad financial habits then it’s a bit rich to expect God to keep on bailing us out. It’s a bit like a chain smoker asking God to cure them of lung cancer whilst they have no intention of giving up smoking.

As you can see, relationships can be complicated and just because you think you’re doing it all right, doesn’t automatically give you the right to demand God’s blessing. He is a loving Father and He does bless abundantly, but it is all part of His perfect dealings with us, not our imperfect view of what we think should happen. Now don’t get me wrong, do hold on to the promises of God and remind Him of them, but be open to His leading as to what else may be going on in your life. The whole point of a relationship is that you are in fellowship with the other person. When trouble strikes instead of blaming God and turning away, let’s press in to Him, He knows what we’re going through. If we talk to Him and listen, we may discern what is going on and what we need to do to move forward.

There can be many reasons why something is happening and we may have to wait for heaven to find those reasons out. We can however wholly trust and rely on our heavenly Father to be treating us just right, and it blesses His heart when we express our trust in Him in spite of our circumstances.

Presently I have no fixed source of income and I have been living like this for the past three years. My testimony is that God has been faithful through this period and that we have never lacked bread on our table. We have had a table prepared for us in the presence of our enemies (financial challenges). This experience is still a work in progress for us but I can say that I have never flinched from running into God and declaring my total dependence on Him throughout this period. It has broken me, it has also brought me closer to God than I have ever been in my life. Whilst I’m looking forward to what blessings God has for me around the corner, I am at peace before Him in my current circumstances. I have given up the illusion of control I thought I had and am surrendered to His providence. I can’t think of a safer place to be.



May God richly bless you,

Richard Braddon-Parsons


This series is designed to build your faith in God as your Provider and to enable you to release His full abundance into your life. If you have a testimony of God’s provision as a result of applying the principles from this ministry please share it with us (and let us know if we can share it with others). If this article has helped you, please consider praying for me and this ministry. Thanks and God Bless, Richard B-P.

This article is provided for educational and edificational purposes only. It does not constitute and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you require financial advice or assistance please contact a suitable professional adviser.

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Richard Braddon-Parsons currently resides in Palmerston North, New Zealand with his wife, two teenage daughters and son...


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